I’ll Show You Mine & You Show Me Yours

Everyone of us wakes up and goes to sleep with lingering wounds. The problem that we face is that we either don’t know that we have been wounded or we cover up our wounds because opening them back up would be too painful. In either case our wounds never heal and we continue to live and act out of our own hurt. You may think that all of this is a private matter but as the old saying goes, “Hurt people, hurt people.” When our wounds aren’t healed in a healthy way we tend to project our hurt and disappointment onto others. In the long run we end up hurting those that we love.

As much as I wish I could keep my hurts to myself I also wish I could take care of them by myself. But that isn’t reality either. So many times in my life (and I’m sure in yours as well) I have taken a situation that hurt me and tried to process through it on my own. As I look back on many of these situations I realize that it only brought bitterness and resentment towards those that hurt me. I was only able to process my side of the story which made it easy to revisit my pain over and over again. It takes humility and an exponential amount of vulnerability to open up to others about the things that have hurt you in the past. Having a strong community to help you navigate your wounds is such a blessing to have in your life. But nothing is as powerful as opening up your wounds to the one who sent his son to bear the ultimate wounds on the cross.

Our wounds almost seem silly in comparison to what Jesus endured at Calvary. But in all honesty, God really cares about the things that have hurt you. He feels our pain and he knows what its like to be hurt and betrayed by others, even the ones who proclaimed to love Him the most. He paid a high price by sacrificing His Son so we could be free from all of the wounds that have caused us pain. Isaiah 53:5 prophesied:

“But He was pierced for our transgressions;
He was crushed for our iniquities;
upon Him was the chastisement that brought us peace,
and with His wounds we are healed.”

It’s such a profound revelation when we understand that the complete wholeness that God wants us to experience was all made possible because of the beating and wounds that His Son sustained for us. When we open up our wounds at the foot of the cross we allow the Father to speak truth and life into our hurt to bring us the healing He desires for us.

I am so fascinated by the encounter between Thomas and Jesus after He was resurrected from the grave. John 20: 26-28 reads:

Eight days later, his disciples were inside again, and Thomas was with them. Although the doors were locked, Jesus came and stood among them and said, “Peace be with you.” Then he said to Thomas, “Put your finger here, and see my hands; and put out your hand, and place it in my side. Do not disbelieve, but believe.” Thomas answered him, “My Lord and my God!”

There are 3 things that the Lord revealed to my spirit as I studied through this scripture and this idea of our Father healing our wounds.

Before this instance Between Thomas And Jesus, Jesus had already made himself known to the other disciples. When they told Thomas that they had seen the resurrected Jesus, Thomas proclaimed that he would only believe them if he saw the scars on His hands and the wound in His side himself. When Jesus approaches Thomas in this scripture He reveals His scars and wounds to him to prove that it is truly Him. As I was reading through this passage I felt the Lord speaking to my spirit. He said to me, “I’ll show you mine and you show me yours.” By the wounds of Jesus we have the confidence to show our Father ours.

The reason we can relate to Jesus so well as He walked in His ministry is because we see him facing all of the same things that we face today. He faced temptation in the wilderness. He grieved for the loss of His friend, Lazarus. We see him angry as he flipped over tables in the synagogue. And when we seek healing for our wounds we can open them up to Him because His were just as real as ours are.

We also see in these verses that Jesus was now whole. He certainly didn’t look the way He looked before He was hung on a cross. He was no longer unrecognizable as a human being. He had no more open wounds and no more holes in His hands. He was raised from the dead and completely healed. It’s hard for us to grasp this concept when we read it our say it out loud, but God thinks of us the same way that He thinks about His Son. He loves us and cares for us so deeply and calls us all His righteousness. He loves us the same way He loved Jesus, so he heals us the same way as well.

Jesus performed one of the most humble acts of love in History. He was humble in His reactions to his accusers and the ones who would eventually murder Him. He was humiliated in front of the ones that loved Him the most. And His heart was humble in His approach to His Father. Through humility Jesus gave His life up so His Father could give Him His perfect healing. Through our humility we open our wounds and let God speak into them so we can have our perfect healing as well. Friends are always a positive resource to have when navigating wounds. But nothing can bring us complete healing the way our heavenly Father can. We have to learn to involve Him in the process.

Lastly we see that God left Jesus with something that would remind Him of what happened for eternity. When Thomas asked to see Jesus’s scars he wasn’t disappointed because Jesus still had them to show. God didn’t bring His body to complete restoration in it’s original state. Jesus had scars. I believe He did this because our wounds are never anything that we forget. When we have wounds that haven’t been healed correctly we wish that we could forget them. But when they are healed perfectly through God’s grace and compassion towards us it’s a blessing to look back at the scars that remain and tell the story of How God brought us the supernatural healing that only He can bring.

In my lifetime I have lost many friends and family members including two brothers. I don’t tell you this to draw sympathy from you but only to show you my scars. The loss of my siblings were probably the deepest wounds that I have ever had to endure. But I can honestly say that they are the wounds that I opened up the most to let God do a complete healing in my life. I do have other wounds that I’m still allowing God to work on, but I love to tell others about the life my brothers had and how they helped shape me into who I am today. I love those scars because of the work God did in my life when they were still open wounds. I don’t have a desire to forget the hurt because it no longer hurts. A complete work has been done in me and I am free from all of that pain.

I believe that God can and will do the same for you in the areas of your life that hurt the most. He sees your pain and I actually believe that He feels that hurt more than you do. He cares about your hurt more than you do. We can never allow Him to speak truth into our wounds and begin the healing process until we learn to open them up and set them at His feet. I won’t tell you these healing processes are easy. They can actually be some of the most painful things you ever endure. But getting to know God’s heart through the process and the complete healing He will bring may be the some of the greatest and most humbling blessings you ever receive.

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1 Comment

  1. I read this twice. Without God’s healing of our deepest and most hurtful wounds we would never be free from the pain they cause. Emotional pain holds us back from living our best life. I am so grateful for the healing power of our Heavenly Father. Without him and his love and patience with me, I would still be down in a dark hole unable to crawl out of it on my own.


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